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My New Embryo Adoption Book 'Frozen, But Not Forgotten' Publishes April 1, 2019

In first grade, I turned my journal into a book depicting scenes from my young life. I titled it "Little House in the Big City" and made it official by writing the title in permanent marker on the gold spine. The cover had a picture of a droopy-eared golden retriever against a red background.

OK, so the title and the cover didn't exactly line up. Work with me here.

Today, I have a different and arguably more exciting announcement. My first real book publishes April 1, 2019, from Carpenter's Son Publishing, and I couldn't be more thrilled because of the content.

This project has a singular mission: Help parents discover, learn about and consider embryo adoption as they build their families.

It is titled "Frozen, But Not Forgotten"**. Each chapter guides parents through the process Julie and I encountered, including making initial inquiries with adoption agencies, debunking myths about stolen babies, explaining why a fertile couple spends months with infertility doctors, and opening your heart to an entirely new branch of your family tree.

Did I mention I used to be an embryo adoption skeptic? That's in the book, too.

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Maybe you want to adopt but your spouse isn't on board. Maybe you've never heard of embryo adoption and think it sounds crazy. Perhaps  you're ready to start the adoption journey but want a preview of what you're going to go through in the months ahead. If this is you or someone you know, I hope this book proves helpful.

When Julie and I began our embryo adoption process two years ago, we had no idea what we were getting into. Sure, we'd heard about the experiences of Christian friends who'd been through this before. Our adoption agency provided excellent information. And there are plenty of helpful online resources.

But there wasn't anywhere we could go for a single, 360-degree view of the process. No one had explained to us in any detail why it matters. Or that there are estimated to be 1 million frozen embryos in the U.S. today -- a figure that rises each year.

If you believe life matters, and you know other families that do, too, this book is for you. My daughter Phoebe graces the cover, and she is precious. Lots of books have cute stories, and you'll find plenty in my book. But you'll also get practical tips that will save you time, money, and interpersonal headaches. I've put my journalism experience to work in an effort to keep couples organized and sane through the beautiful but daunting adoption process.

Will you join me on this journey to help bring the light of adoption to couples who are seeking to have a family? I can't wait to see the impact we can have together.

Thanks for reading. We're only getting started.

**My friend Carla Bale gets full credit for crafting the title. To her -- and to all of you who suggested additionally wonderful titles and gave helpful input on the cover -- I say, "Thank you!"


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