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The Challenge

Sometimes, circumstances push us to act. Such is the case with my family's embryo adoption journey.

Over the past two years, I've come to realize there's a tremendous thirst in our country, and among young couples in particular, to build families. I'm not just talking about the biological or technological processes that enable us to have children. I'm talking about building deep, lasting, meaningful relationships.

And if we are building families, then we are necessarily trying to lay the foundation for the next generation.

I didn't ever think I'd be here. When my wife, Julie, suggested that we pursue embryo adoption, I didn't think it was what I wanted to do. But with the arrival of my daughter, Phoebe, in March this year, all of that changed. She has our three sons in the palms of her little hands -- and I'm right there with them.

If you are already my friend or my family, thank you for reading. If you don't know me from the man in the moon, I'm especially delighted you're here.

This blog isn't about me. It's about you. What do you want your family to be? And could embryo adoption help you turn your hopefulness into reality.

I'm convinced every one of us has a calling, likely several. One of mine is making sure families have the knowledge, resources and support they need when exploring and actively pursuing embryo adoption -- before, during and after.

I want your questions. I want your comments. More than anything, I want your help in making this blog a resource that will be helpful to your family.

Full disclosure: I write from a Christian worldview.

I've challenged myself to write daily. Why? Community is important. And you can't build community if the lights in your virtual coffee shop are only turned on once per month.

Let's get started. For our families' sake.

Comments

Anonymous said…
Have you shared why you chose this path, since you mention
there is no infertility issue? I am just learning about this
now, from your blog. Thank you.
July 3, 2018 at 11:03 AM
Nate said…
Thanks so much for your question -- I'll be glad to post about our decision to pursue embryo adoption despite not having a fertility issue. The short answer is that my wife and I had discussed adoption since before we were married. Over the past 10 years, we had our three sons but had become more involved in supporting a group that helps families fund adoptions. That, combined with my wife's background as a scientist studying infertility (endometriosis), and knowing friends of friends who had been successful with embryo adoption led us to the decision. I've got to admit that it struck me as odd when I learned about it years ago. But it obviously grew on me, as you can see in this blog. I hope this is helpful! Please stay in touch and be sure to subscribe for updates using the email button at the top of this page. Thanks so much for reading!
July 3, 2018 at 7:54 PM
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